OkCupid User: JohnGentle
66 / M / Straight / Single
Passaic, New Jersey
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What am I?
A lover of life, a musician (not by trade, but passion), a child of the 60’s, a lover of quiet nights and candlelit dinners, an outdoorsman, a walker, a romantic. I am John Gentle and I may be the missing piece of your life puzzle.
What I’m doing with my life
I perform music on a semi-regular basis, though not quite as often as I did in my restless youth. Still, I still consider myself a prolific songwriter, penning over 100 songs in my music career. There’s a local cafe that has open mic nights that are sparsely attended, so they serve as a weekly showcase of my talents.
I will be performing a tribute to Amiri Baraka at this years Geraldine R. Dodge Poetry Festival. I’m a poet because music is essentially poetry set to song.
I am currently writing an album about my love/hate relationship with the state of New Jersey entitled “Parkway Pleasures and Turnpike Terrors” that I will be self-releasing in the summer. Because of the question I expect to answer quite frequently in the next few months, I’ll put it out there: the title is only like that for the alliteration. The turnpike can be quite lovely, as I mention in the verse on the second track of the album entitled “Heaven Looks Like New Jersey”: “This gorgeous stretch of turnpike doesn’t dip or wind, it’s a commute, oh yeah, but hardly is a grind.” The artwork will be done by painter/ex-lover, Angela Marotta, who still holds a candle for me.
I’m really good at
Through a flirtation with Soduku briefly tempted me away from my enduring love of crossword puzzles, I have returned and keep a nightly 6:30pm appointment to light a candle, pour a cup of coffee, set out a plate of Nilla wafers and really engage with those stimulating black and white boxes. I think I captured the mood well in a song penned in 1996, which is something of a “tone poem” (and I apologize that you can’t hear it, but just imagine a slow A-major I-IV-V7 chord progression A-D-E7)… “Pencil on newsprint, crumbs from Nilla wafers in my sweater, channel 13 on in the other room, than this? it doesn’t get any better.”
I’m also very good at songwriting. In a fit of writer’s block, I lit a candle and penned a little diddy about how hard it is to write a catchy tune, and trust me, the irony was NOT lost on me. It went like this, and just tap a little one drop rhythm on your desk as you picture me singing this to you: “I can’t write a new song, but I can look at my tank, the fish won’t even mind if the paper stays blank, I can’t write a new song, but I can drive my car, It’s Sunday and I’ve spent enough time with my guitar” and it goes on like that.
The first things people usually notice about me
Silly ties. I guess it’s that nonconformist in me still trying to find some way out. I have a collection of ties that have interesting patterns, cartoon characters, and sometimes jokes. I have a collection of Jerry Garcia ties that I wear pretty often. This might be my favorite one: http://whatdidyoubringme.homestead.com/files/neckties/EntertainmentNeckties/Looney/SylvesterSurfingAndTweedyWaterSkiingBalancineHotCakes6833.jpg
I think I have a good smile. Not so much in my teeth but in my eyes.
I’m also very sincere:
"Looking for the answers, alone on Hudson Street,
Looking at the towers, or at least where they used to be,
Lives were lost, wars began, but that’s not why I cry,
It’s that missing piece of city, filled with empty sky.”
- “Empty Sky,” a song by John Gentle, 2009
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
You might say I’m a PBS kind of guy. Been there, pledged that, got the tote bag.
I wrote a song about Paul Simon. Believe it or not, we were once romantic rivals…well not exactly. A girl I dated in college was smitten with him, and despite being a pretty great songwriter myself, I couldn’t hold a candle to him. So I wrote a song about it called “Little Man” and well, let’s say that relationship didn’t last much longer after I played it for her at the Gerde’s Folk City open mic.
My favorite food is Stella D’oro Breakfast Treats. Delicious.
The six things I could never do without
I traveled around Europe for a year with nothing but the clothes on my back, a journal, a candle and a guitar. I’m not very big on material possessions.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
There was this one girl.
I was young, burning the candle at both ends as you do when you’re young. I was riding on a CNJ train from Philadelphia to New York, and I caught the eye of a very pretty blonde. She looked a bit older than me…if not by age, definitely by life experience. I had my guitar case with me, and she had her guitar case, and if you’ve ever been with a musician, there’s a certain…understanding. I said hello, and despite having a girlfriend at the time, I started flirting with her. She wasn’t having any of it. She seemed like she had a long night, and asked to be left alone. When I mentioned I had a little bit of hash in my pocket, she changed her tune.
We talked for a while. I asked if she had a boyfriend, and she said yes. She asked me and I said no.
I stayed on the train past Bayonne (my stop) because I wanted to keep talking to her. I knew I had a brief window of time to woo her, so I pulled out my guitar. I begun playing a song that to this day, I have not been able to recall. Though, playing it at that moment was so special, I wouldn’t dare try to play it again. I ended this improvised tune, and we stared at one another for an amount of time that felt like an eternity. As the train pulled into New York, she pulled down my corduroys and gave me the most fantastic hummer I have ever received. I came fast and she left faster.
To this day, my candle still burns for her. Not a week goes by that I don’t think about her. I never got her number, I never saw her in person again, but she did tell me her name: Joni Mitchell.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m married but whatever.
I’m looking for
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 18–30
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
…you see the beauty in turnpikes and the magic in crossword puzzles. If you like taking long walks around Greenwich Village or love watching the sunset on a boardwalk bench. If you’re blonde, attractive and in shape. If you want to light my candle, and want me to light yours. If you appreciate the small things in life. If you believe in returning the favor. If you are into wax play. If you know that true love isn’t just for the young.
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